11 Responses to "Aspects of Playfulness: Humble Humour"
Hi David – Laughter is great medicine, isn’t it? I remember reading stories of how people recover quicker from surgeries if they watch funny movies and spend time laughing. It’s good for the soul.
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Jean, thanks for sharing your posts. I find criticism hard to take, which makes it difficult for me to criticise others. I wonder at what point we should stand up and say what we believe, even when it’s unpopular?
Barbara, I’ve heard that too – about people recovering from illnesses through laughter. There is a definite relationship between laughter and hope.
David,
I’m confused, how does your comment
“I find criticism hard to take, which makes it difficult for me to criticise others. I wonder at what point we should stand up and say what we believe, even when it’s unpopular?”
connect with your statement
“every person is a fallible, messed-up, beautiful human being – and that this is the reason to sing, dance and smile in celebration of being alive.”
What exactly does criticism look like to you? Could you be a bit more specific? It would help if you gave some examples.
Thanks!
Humour and humility both recognise the foolishness of pretending to be something we are not. They both know that every person is a fallible, messed-up, beautiful human being – and that this is the reason to sing, dance and smile in celebration of being alive.
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An excellent post with many facets of humor and unassuming qualities.
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Jean,
Thanks for your question – I didn’t explain myself too well in my last comment. So I’ll explain it better, then I’ll try to explain the connection.
Criticism hurts me. A lot. Knowing how much criticism hurts me, I am reluctant to critise other people.
However, as you pointed out in your first comment, there comes a time when you’ve just got to tell people to ‘lighten up’. Or if you see someone bullying another person, you recognise that you might need to intervene and ‘criticise’ the person doing the bullying.
I’m big on social justice – so I try to buy fairtrade, do my best for the environment, campaign for those who suffer injustice. When I see other people doing differently – not buying fairtrade, not caring for the environment, not knowing that their actions are causing injustice – at what point should I step in with my ‘criticism’? For me, I find it difficult to step in and criticise the bully or the unjust person because I know how hard it is to take criticism. I hope that goes some way to explaining my point.
I think this is where the ‘singing, dancing and smiling in celebration of being alive’ comes in. Because I don’t like to directly criticise people, I try to live in a way that my whole life and way of being challenges injustice – I explain some of this in my post Why Clowns Make the Best World Changers.
I hope that makes some sense – it’s not entirely clear in my head yet, so thanks for pointing out the disconnect there.
I also hope it was clear that I was responding to your comments about criticism – I hadn’t meant to imply in anyway that you were criticising me, although looking at my comment, I can see how it could have seemed like that.
Damien,
Thanks again for your support. I really appreciate all you do for beplayful.org.
No, I didn’t think you were implying I was criticizing you. I was just trying to go deeper into the conversation.
So what do we do when someone says or does something that bothers us? There have been too many times when I just let it go, and I agree, we want to stand up for our values without attacking the other person. The first thing that comes to mind is Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication, about “giving and receiving from the heart”.
The key aspects are
* Honestly Expressing how I am and what I would like without using blame, criticism or demands
* Empathically Receiving how another is and what he/she would like without hearing blame, criticism or demands
Whether expressing or receiving, NVC focuses our attention on four pieces of information:
* Observations—Objectively describing what is going on without using evaluation, moralistic judgment, interpretation or diagnosis
* Feelings—Saying how you feel (emotions and body sensations) about what you have observed without assigning blame
* Needs—The basic human needs that are or not being met and are the source of feelings
* Requests—Clear request for actions that can meet needs
This information came from http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/aboutnvc/keyfacts.htm
A chart of the process is at http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/aboutnvc/4partprocess.htm
There’s plenty more information out there, but this will give you a feeling for whether the idea appeals to you. If you like it we can discuss it further.
I Iove your attitude!
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Humility also allows us to love others fully. Terrific post!
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Yes it does brings suspension of bad thoughts and give more room for friendship and a nice pretty community. Thanx for this!
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Re: “Those who have experienced the worst in life no longer need fear it, and are able to laugh at and within everything life throws at them.”
This is such a precious gem and so true.
When you come to realize the ‘bigness’ of who you are as a universal all expansive soul, witnessing the antics of our ego self aspects is such fun ha!
1 | Jean Browman--Cheerful Monk
1 October 2008 at 3:55 am
Amen to that. I’m a great believer in not taking ourselves too seriously. One of my posts on the subject is Dolphins, Humility and Humor/ . Another is What I Learned From Being Downsized.
When people start criticizing one another my reaction is, “Hey, lighten up. We’re all a bunch of nuts doing the best we can.”
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